More and more, young adults preoccupy themselves with discussions,findings,and experimenting on things pertaining to love and sex. Irrespective of the cultural, religious or social situation, the questions concerning this reality never escape their minds.
For this reason, the issue of relationship/dating is one discussion that arouses the interest of young adults as it directly affect their moral,social and religious upbringing. They are surrounded by lots of “don’ts” and yet they are betrayed by their day to day feelings and experiences.
These concerns everyone; it cannot be avoided; it only needs to be understood and managed; otherwise, the result may render one useless,sinful,guilty and of course miserable. I have been confronted by many female young adults asking why this or that male friend has to call the relationship/friendship a quit after two or more years of their being together. And when I asked why? Many responded saying it is because they deny the male friend sexual relations.
On one hand,i agree with them,on the other hand I disagree. I agreed because it is possible for men who feel sex starved to look elsewhere. I disagreed because where love exists or where love is the foundation of their relationship, sexual intercourse will not be the reason for separation. I sometimes have to ask this question: “is it possible to have a sexless relationship?
To be Continued
By Fr Joyzy Pius Egunjobi