WHAT IS RELATIONSHIP~ Relationship could mean dealings,associations,affairs,or contact between two or more persons and their involvement with one another,especially in the way they behave towards and feel about one another.
Loneliness kills, and no one really likes to be alone. There is need for companionship. God saw that it was not good for a man to be alone,and so he created a woman(Genesis 2:18,21ff). By implication,a relationship in terms of companionship is God’s idea; the very reason why relationship is really pleasurable,successful and fulfilling is when God is never excluded from it. So,when you are in a relationship,you are not doing anything wrong and of course, not sinning.
When one talks about relationship within the context of this subject matter,friendship cannot be excluded from it,and of course feelings and affection cannot be unexpected.
Once relationship is in terms of courtship or dating or friendship, companionship and intimacy may be expected. And always,it takes two to be in such a relationship. As such, the two has more to expect and contribute to a successful relationship.
When you talk about relationship, it has always been with a kind of sexual sense. Did I say Sexual? Yes! Sexual! Human beings are sexual in nature. God invented sex and for a right and useful purpose. It forms our feelings of affection and desire that makes a perfect feeling of being needed. It gives rise to a kind of fire feeling that Adam could not but exclaimed: “this is at last the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh” (Genesis 2:23).
Remember that when God saw the need for a companion for Adam,he first made animals which could not satisfy that loneliness. Thus,God made the woman from that man. This feeling expressed by Adam is therefore necessary for every relationship established with the aim and purpose of true Love.
This issue of asserting that the sin of Adam and Eve was Sex. Reading through the Scriptures will tell you that the sin of Adam has nothing to do with sex. It was after the fall and ejection of Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden that Gen 4:1 says, “and Adam had intercourse with his wife Eve, and bore Cain”. God invented sex to fasten the bond of Love in terms of intimacy and most especially in fulfillment of the blessing of the Lord. The joy and pleasure in sexual intercourse therefore is to see the offspring coming out of the relationship. This is expected when marriage has been contracted between a man and a woman. You must know however, that when we talk about sex here or talk about relationship or sharing of feelings in sexual manner, it is beyond sexual intercourse. Because, human beings are also sexual beings, they cannot but express it.
As Sexual beings therefore,human beings are categorized into three sexes (1)Male, (2)Female, (3)Hermaphrodite(genderless,androgynous,sexless or asexual). But in general terms, we talk about male and female. And ultimately,just like in Magnetic principle,”unlike poles attract”. So should it be that a male be attracted to a female and vice versa. Where you now see a Male trying to form a kind of sexual relationship with a male, or a female trying to form a sexual relationship with a female, there exist a fundamental problem. Thus the Lord God said, a Male shall not have sexual relation with a Male(Lev 18:22), and those who do such will not enter the kingdom of God(1cor 6:9).
Sex as behavior also includes any form of behavior with an intent of fulfilling sexual feeling, orgies or desires such as kissing and romance. If you kiss in the above sex sense, it means you have had sex. We all have one form or different forms of exercising our sexual nature.
By Fr Joyzy Pius Egunjobi
To be Continued